Sign Language

Scorpio (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)

Every relationship involves compromise. Unfortunately, in some cases, that first compromise can lead to many more, and at some point what began as an amicable meeting of minds can lead to a situation that neither party is especially happy with, because both feel like they're giving up way more than they're getting. So you can see I understand your profound reluctance to walk down that path again. Is this compromise the top of a slippery slope? Of course it is. That doesn't mean you shouldn't do it, though.  It's still necessary. Just watch your step.

Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)

You've always made your own rules and defined your own values; since when did what other people dictated for you matter much? Sure, according to the way they view the world, you may not be considered particularly successful or virtuous, but that's only by their screwed-up definition. By your own much more apt—at least according to your perspective and experience—definition, you're actually wildly successful and amazing. There isn't actually a right or wrong way to see the world—but there are better and worse ways. The best way is the one that makes you happiest. Stick with that.

Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)

Relationships aren't always convenient. In fact, they're sometimes a downright pain in the ass. When you discover that you're the one causing a hassle for someone else (instead of the other way around, as things usually are), it can sting. Please try to remember this: It doesn't mean they don't love, value, or respect you, just that they also have other things in their lives they care about, and that, by itself, will occasionally cause conflict. Don't make a big deal about it, and it won't be a big deal. It's as simple as that.

Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)

Being a good friend to someone isn't necessarily defined by what they think you ought to do for them. After all, some of our favorite people have pretty overblown senses of entitlement. However, not catering to their every whim doesn't mean we don't still adore them. You must be careful to keep your boundaries and limitations intact this week, as some of your needier friends may put them to the test. There's a way to remain a loving, supportive, and generous friend, even if you must refuse some of their requests/demands. Find it, and stick to it.

Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20)

Your mind works differently than most. That doesn't mean you're wrong or that the decisions you make are inferior; in fact, in many cases you're simply wiser or more imaginatively creative than they can wrap their heads around. However, your wisdom and perspective come with a price; sometimes your choices truly are a little wacked-out. That means when someone you respect vehemently questions a path you've chosen, you must take them seriously. Don't simply roll over and change your mind because they said so, but earnestly consider doing so; it may save you from an embarrassing mistake.

Aries (March 21-April 19)

There's "right" and then there's right. While you may technically be correct in the situation at hand, there's a deeper truth—a deeper rightness, if you will—that's also in play. Don't get carried away on a crusade that, while entirely within your rights, will only make you seem petty and small. You are neither of those. Look deeper here, and let go of the superficial truth of these circumstances, in order to see and embrace a kinder and more enlightened version of events, one in which, yes, you may have to let go of something you've been clinging to—but which you don't really need—in order to let this situation play out the best way it can.

Taurus (April 20-May 20)

Some people are too forgiving of mistakes, and end up letting others walk all over them. Those suckers are consequently repeatedly forced to cope with, clean up after, or simply suffer from others' mistakes. Your wish to not be this kind of doormat is perfectly understandable; however, you do tend to overcompensate in this department, so much so that when someone screws up even once, it can spell the end of your relationship. There's room for more slack and leeway here. Be forgiving! That doesn't mean not having standards, just building a bit more flexibility into them—for your own sake as well as for the fallible humans who populate your life.

Gemini (May 21-June 20)

Most parents would love to solve every problem for their children, but the sad truth is that many difficulties can't be addressed by anyone other than those they concern; in fact, outside intervention may actually make the problem worse. That's the case here. You're probably sorely tempted to play the hero and fix the situation. It might even seem like you can. What will actually happen, though, is that you'll swoop in and appear to do some good, but once you're gone things will be, sadly, worse than they were before. It may break your heart, but accept the possibility that there's not much you can do, besides be supportive and encouraging enough to empower those who are suffering to fix this situation for themselves.

Cancer (June 21-July 22)

Resist your urge to sabotage things. You've had a tendency to do this in the past, often without good reason. It's a self-destructive impulse that you shouldn't beat yourself up for (we all have them), but you should try to resist it, especially this week. Instead of driving yourself nuts analyzing why you want to screw things up in the first place, just concentrate on avoiding doing so—which, ironically, will work best if you simply relax, smile, let go of your agenda, and try to simply enjoy whatever's happening. In other words, the less you try to influence the situation, and instead simply participate in it, the better it'll go.

Leo (July 23-Aug. 22)

Overreacting comes naturally for one as emotionally intense as you are, but it's not necessarily cool, happiness-producing, or relationship-nurturing. Please accept that whatever your first reaction to a situation is, as honest and valid as it feels, it's probably more than what you would eventually settle on as an appropriate response. Therefore, either edit it by about 50% before you allow the world to see it, or simply stay neutral and wait until your inner emotions have settled to see what's actually left. You can't help feeling whatever it is you feel, but you can (and should) choose how you react to it, and how much of it you express.

Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)

When you find yourself on a different side of the ethical fence than someone you're working with, you're right to express your concerns. However, forcing them to conform to your views is as unlikely to be successful as them trying to get you to do what they want you to. Speak up, but once you've said your piece, there's nothing left for you to do but simply step aside. That doesn't mean you need to participate in whatever you object to, just that making more of a stink serves no purpose, so if you've already voiced your thoughts to no avail, shut up, step aside, and move on.

Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)

Don't take the blame for something that has little or nothing to do with you. I understand your urge to smooth things over, even if that means taking on burdens and responsibilities that aren't yours, but accept that you can't fix everything, particularly not by being a scapegoat for others' troubles. You're the diplomats of the zodiac, but recognize that not every conflict or problem is within your power to resolve. Some you have to let go of, or simply stay out of to begin with. The one before you this week falls into this category, so instead of banging your head against it, let it go, and go looking for someplace you can actually do some good.

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